Sexual Intimacy & Orgasm: What's Love Got To Do With It?
Sex serves many purposes, one of which is emotional bonding. It is a
source of pleasure and is the means for procreation. Below are several
terms and concepts to help expand understanding of sexual intimacy.
Emotional disconnection from self (from one's own
Disconnection from others (isolating self & objectifying
Pseudo Intimacy (momentary fantasy of being connected,
loved &/or desired)
Primary Myth: Sex is always about pleasure and orgasm.
Secondary Myth: Sex is always about an underlying desire for connection and emotional bonding.
There is not one right way to enjoy sexual pleasure and experience sexual fulfillment.
Subscribing to one-size fits all, with regards to sex, actually interferes with people's ability to create true sexual and emotional intimacy.
For some people, emotional bonding is not necessary for sexual fulfillment.
For some people, orgasm is not always necessary for sexual fulfillment.
Sex is ALWAYS about attachment needs.
Sex serves as an attachment strategy to meet attachment needs, but the way sex is used to meet attachment needs depends on the person's attachment style.
Different ways people use sex as a means to address their attachment needs & longings INCLUDE:
Connecting with their own needs and others' needs to create, deepen &/or heal an emotional bond
Disconnecting from their own & others' attachment needs & longings to have power over others &/or protect themselves against others