The Role of Emotions
Repeated Positive Experiences
Speed of Progression
Staying Focused on the Present Moment
Being in the Moment
Time Frame and Pacing
Stage One: Affectionate, Non-Sexual Touching (some clients prefer to call this “caring touch”
Partners are to focus on the tactile sensations and emotional experience of holding hands, cuddling, caressing and massaging.
This is the most pivotal stage in that it is where most of the emotional and sexual repair will occur. It is a vulnerable stage and partners should proceed with caution and tenderness. The focus is on increasing their understanding and awarenss of their own and each other's emotional needs and triggers. These emotional responses to the sexual touching are shared and processed with one another in the context of authentic verabal reassurance and comforting, non-sexual physical touch.